There’s
been a shift in the world, in the way in which we treat one another. Have you
felt it?
I have started to notice it more and more
in the last maybe 5 years or so, that something changed.
There have been disagreements since the
beginning of time, but it feels like no one is agreeing to disagree anymore.
Cyber bullying is exploding all over social
media and one of the biggest triggers these days is politics.
There are so many keyboard warriors ready
to attack, because thanks to our social media platforms; they often know our
opinions, before they really know us.
There’s a local resident’s page in my
little town, where so many fights happen on the regular and I sit there in
wonder; that all these people are neighbors and are going to run into each
other in our only grocery store the next day! Do you think they won’t recognize
you from your profile picture? Goodness! I’d wear a paper bag on my head if I
was talking to my neighbors online, like so many people I’ve witnessed do!
I
wonder how far we’ve fallen that we don’t know what it means to be a good
neighbor anymore.
It used to be that our family, friendships and
acquaintances weren’t defined and more importantly weren’t ended, based on if
we were Republican or Democrat.
There used to be a civility between us, that no
matter what opinions we differed in, at the end of the day we recognized that
we were still neighbors, friends or family and that we still have more
common threads that bind us, then divide us.
Now, you see people making grand declarations on
their Facebook pages, “If you voted for So-So, unfriend me now!” Really?
I made a resolution this year that no
matter how much I may not agree foundationally with someone’s opinions, that I
would be quiet and hear them out; so that I could understand what life
experience led them to that point of view. That way, I could marry their strong
points of view, with who they are aside from our clashing perspectives. It
makes it easier to find common ground.
I wanted to make sure that on the most basic level,
I was respecting them as a human being, who has the right to their opinions.
That’s what’s really wrong now. There is so
little respect to be found in OUR generation. So, what are we modeling for our
kids? You see the bullying starting at quite honestly, unacceptable ages
nowadays. You see children with no respect for their parents, their elders,
their authority figures and most importantly, themselves. WE have to change, if
we want them to be kind, tolerant and loving to the world around them, not just
the people who think exactly like them.
What
are we showing our kids if we unfriend, stop speaking to or otherwise ostracize
people in our lives that don’t share our points of views? That they shouldn’t
accept differences? What happens the next time THEY meet someone who is a bit
different in their lives? Perhaps the lack of being inclusive to kids who have
special needs or kids that stand out, and the bullying and subsequent suicides
of these beautiful children who are FAR too young to even be thinking like this;
is a reflection of what they see the adults in their lives doing, on some scale.
All these blood baths we’ve seen in the
last several elections due to politics, cannot define our culture and our
future.
You can acknowledge people who think
differently than you.
We never know what experiences shape a person’s
perspective and we don’t have the right to invalidate their viewpoints, because
we don’t agree.
You can stand up for what you believe is
right, without stepping on people to do it.
You can communicate effectively and get
your points across, while not being condescending and calling those who don’t
see things your way, names.
We have to come together and understand
that acknowledgement is NOT agreement.
I don’t have to agree with who you voted
for or what your lifestyle is and you don’t have to think like me or understand
why I make the choices I make. But just because we don’t see eye to eye, that
doesn’t mean we should disrespect, ignore or berate each other. I still owe it
to you, to acknowledge you as a person and treat you with love and respect.
A tremendous lack of love is what we’re
dealing with now in our world, in our children, in our friendships.
My faith tells me that loving my neighbor
as myself, is my highest calling. How could we change the world and the course
we’re on, if we put a bigger priority on loving people, than we did on being
right?
What would happen if you made a promise to
yourself, that you wouldn’t ever insult another human being; just because they
thought differently than you?
What shift would we see, if we opened up
friendly and respectful dialogues among family, friends, and co-workers and
ended those conversations with a hand shake and a sheepish; “Agree to
disagree?”
How amazing would it be if we started
talking TO people, instead of ABOUT them? Imagine the problems we could solve!
What if we stop contributing to the
disrespect and ugliness, we are all so tired of and start being the change we
want to see in the world and more importantly the change our kids NEED to see
happen? We have the power to adjust the course we’re on, so that they have a
bright and beautiful world to look forward to.
People change and evolve. Politicians come
and go.Sometimes our
opinions even evolve, as we do. However, some people we may never see eye to
eye with. The next time you are confronted by a person who doesn’t see things
the way you do, try to take a step back and view them for the whole person they
are, not just for their differing points of view. Then try to approach each
person with a foundational love and respect for them as your fellow humans. Let
love lead the way, because love…love is what matters.
